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This list is amazing…and exactly what I needed :)
I can take one or two at the most
Three and I’m under the table
Four and I’m under the host"
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This totally reminds me of the Westfalia camper van my family had in the 1990s when we zipped through Europe like a bunch of vagabonds.
Dude, I totally remember that! Makes me want to buy some $500 van and fix it up to travel around in…good times good time ;) Remember the times you, me, Mom, and Dad used to stop at roadside honey stands in Austria to nibble on fresh honeycomb? Or the times that we stopped for “elephant ears” smothered with garlic oil in Hungary? Ahhh those were the days…
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Facts.
Among victims of sexual abuse, the inability to trust is pronounced, which also contributes to secrecy and non-disclosure.
Source: Courtois & Watts, 1982.
Children often fail to report because of the fear that disclosure will bring consequences even worse than being victimized again. The victim may fear consequences from the family, feel guilty for consequences to the perpetrator, and may fear subsequent retaliatory actions from the perpetrator.
Sources: Berlinger & Barbieri, 1984; Groth, 1979; Swanson & Biaggio, 1985.
Young victims may not recognize their victimization as sexual abuse.
Source: Gilbert, l988.
There is the clinical assumption that children who feel compelled to keep sexual abuse a secret suffer greater psychic distress than victims who disclose the secret and receive assistance and support.
Source: Finkelhor & Browne, 1986.
Long term effects of child abuse include fear, anxiety, depression, anger, hostility, inappropriate sexual behavior, poor self esteem, tendency toward substance abuse and difficulty with close relationships.
Source: Browne & Finkelhor, 1986.
Guilt is universally experienced by almost all victims. Courtois and Watts described the “sexual guilt” as “guilt derived from sexual pleasure”
Source: Tsai and Wagner, l978.
Sexuality is regarded not simply as a part of the self limited to genitals, discrete behaviors, or biological aspects of reproduction, but is more properly understood as one component of the total personality that affects one’s concept of personal identity and self-esteem.
Source: Whitlock & Gillman, 1989.
Sexual victimization may profoundly interfere with and alter the development of attitudes toward self, sexuality, and trusting relationships during the critical early years of development.
Source: Tsai & Wagner, 1984.
If the child victim does not resolve the trauma, sexuality may become an area of adult conflict.
Source: Courtois & Watts, 1982; Tsai & Wagner, 1984.
There is the clinical assumption that children who feel compelled to keep sexual abuse a secret suffer greater psychic distress than victims who disclose the secret and receive assistance and support.
Source: Finkelhor & Browne, 1986.
Victim=victimizer?
Its days like these when I realize just how fucked up my past has made me. As a victim of child sex abuse, I have a deeply rooted fear of being taken advantage of. This is a death sentence for love. How can I change something that shaped me so long ago? Can I ever learn how to trust completely?
goodbye springtime…
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Because I am tired of being sorry!
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